Now this is truly for better and for worse
I saw a film many years ago, Normal, about a man in a rural town who was married with kids. He worked in a very stereotypical man-centric factory. He began to have a conflict of nature, and couldn’t handle a minute more without revealing to his wife that he was a woman trapped in his male body. He'd always felt female, but his life, other people's expectations and the hardship of going against those expectations kept him from revealing his true self. As we all know, a small lie becomes a bigger, thicker darker lie, and much harder to unravel over time. With a wife, two kids, and a macho job he began cracking at the seams. He had to break out. There was heartbreak, but he and his wife stayed married!
The scenes depicting him wearing make-up and earrings to work as he made his transistion were searingly painful to witness. His friends and coworkers rejected him and made fun of him out of their own weakness and fear. He still loved his wife, did not want to be with men, but urgently needed to become more of a she than a he, otherwise he couldn't continue living. It was dire that he become the gender he profoundly felt he was meant to be.
His wife fell apart, but soon found the strength to support him. Though gut wrenching for both of them, they remained married throughout the cosmetic phase of him dressing as a woman, to him becoming more of one physically through surgery. As a family, they stuck together throughout the confusion, and their children eventually came to accept it. If anyone complains about having a difficult hurdle or hurdles in their marriage, I would ask them to consider this with utter empathy, and to be in awe of this kind of love.